If it's a HE- he is an ALPHA male, if it's a SHE -OMG...How could she!!!!

The media these days seems to be cashing in on the frenzy, intrigue and sense of ''who-dunnit"- surrounding the Sheena Bora disappearance/murder case.

The matter is still under investigation, and some competent investigation - at that, considering that the investigations are being spearheaded by none other than the police chief of Mumbai. 

Whatever may be the legal aspects of the case- motive, presence of a dead body which has been proved inconclusively to be that of Sheena, the weapon, and the murderer- it is actually the social ramifications that are of more interest.

A few days back, was hearing a round panel discussion on this topic anchored by Barkha Dutt.I am sure,not by design though- but towards the end of the discussion,there was an aspect which she brought up - are we more appalled and righteous because in this case it was a woman who was harboring - unbridled, unashamed unapologetic ambition ????? 

And that set off this chain of thoughts: 

Why we,  as a society at large, are so non-accepting of a few traits in women - when we actually admire, respect and even envy these very traits in men..... 

Ambition - for large amounts of money, being at top in one's chosen field of career/ interest, for the good things in life - would be viewed as desirable ALPHA MALE characteristics in a male. These would be signs that the person has success on his mind, is focused, is driven, is the master of his own destiny, is a leader, is a creator.....He has a purpose in his life. All in all these fit in very well with the most accepted and desirable  image of an ALPHA MALE.  

Turn the other side of the coin....

If the same personality traits are to be found in a female- she becomes a gold-digger, manipulative b...., one who has no heart....she defies being a woman.... what kind of a woman would kill her own daughter, her own child - so ruthlessly ???... the aghast,dismayed panelists asked - wide eyed and suitably horrified   

I mean how could Indrani Mukerjea be so callous, so heartless,so cold blooded as to orchestrate the murder of her own daughter???

We all ask in our self-righteous avataars...

Change of scene ... A regular middle class family in a town or a village in India. The man is only/major bread earner, he has children - all daughters, and the lady of the house is expecting. Limited means - small land or a low-paying job , substantial debt, a desire for more money and more comforts, a desire for a son to carry on the family name, extreme frustration .....Throw in a non-so liberal , not so educated mother-in law....

A very very  prevalent circumstance... which more often than not ...results in a DEFINITE MURDER...decreed  by the man ..even before the infant takes birth..

There is no justification - at all - on any grounds - for the act -  Taking the life of another human being . By the same yardstick - the motive behind the act - AMBITION; should be adjudged by the same yardstick - Ambition for more money OR ambition for a son - is AMBITION... In India at least....

So while we collectively take a stand on the morality and character of  Indrani Mukherjea; and derive a sense  of devilish pleasure in pronouncing  her as guilty of murder- before the appearance of unquestionable facts, before the investigations have ended on a firm note, before the law has taken its' course  - we choose to adopt a much more benign attitude towards men-of middle class India - who kill their ''still unborn daughters"; and torture their wives - day in and day out.

Is this plain simple hypocrisy, or are we so damn numbed by our cultural and social mores,and so skewed judgementally ....that ONE MURDER is fine with us, and the other leaves us shaken, aghast.... disturbed.      

Barkha, would we see an eminent panel, on the ''Buck Stops Here'', in which one man murderer is placed on the witness stand, and we attempt an insight into his psyche and the MOTIVE, for his action??? 

After all, both the cases are examples of MURDER IN MEDIA AGE.